Q: When culture says “let go” what does that mean?
A: This is an important question. Because I have no idea what this means and it’s that nagging voice in my head. Is it in yours too?
Ok, I would never walk into your job and start listing off the tasks that you should “let go” or walk into your realm of possibilities and say “it’s not possible”.
Maybe “let go” of dead things. Maybe “let go” of telling yourself you’re a failure. But, don’t “let go” of dishes. You need those tomorrow. Don’t “let go” of laundry. Those clothes? You have to wear them a next time. Don’t “let go” of tidying a space that brings you joy. You need that joy.
“Let go” of self-hatred and negative self-talk and obstacles but don’t “let go” of home. You need it. Everyday. You need it. You need it to be a place of love and peace. You need it to be safe, to serve your family and your hearts need the security of home. If you “let go” of anything that makes home loving and peaceful, you’ve missed the mark.
“Let go” of fear, of anxiety, of thinking the same way about problems at home. “Let go” of anything out of your control. But, don’t “let go” of the notion that home doesn’t matter. Your family matters and home is where you do family. Your spouse matters and home is where you do marriage. Your children matter and home is where you care and nourish them.
Home needs you to grab hold and hang on. Home needs you be present and engaged. Don’t “do home” because you “let that go”? Is this what you’re telling me?…and, how and where are you loving family and neighbors and yourself? Where and how? You wouldn’t let go of love so don’t let go of the where you actually do that.
Home is just the tangible expression of the where and how you actually love. Never let that go.